A friend once told me that we are basically running of mental programs we learned before we were nine years old. You know, things like, don’t talk to strangers. We are social animals and look to others for cues on how to act.
Humans are pretty weak in the animal kingdom. We aren’t fast enough to catch our prey nor fast enough to outrun our predators. What we are good at is banding together to make things happen, but just with our tribe typically. Being alone is almost a death sentence not that long ago.
Our brains have one job; to protect us. Keeping us in good standing with our tribe is the main way to protect us. It’s hard for many to speak up, rock the boat or stand out. Most of the people that “stand out” do it with others who are standing out the exact same way.
Think about standing on stage in front of people. All of those people judging whether you should be in the tribe. It’s next to death for most people.
Most of us seek permission to do something. Sometimes it’s family, or a specific family member. It could be our friends or peers. It’s not bad, it’s just the way we are wired. Realizing it could be the step to freeing yourself.
Maybe you just need proof what you want to do has been done before. I’ve been there where I think I have some wild ideas but no basis that they would work except my guessing. I didn’t have confidence in some of those until I saw it done.
With all of that said, I repeat, “Whose permission do you need, to do what you’ve always wanted to do?” And maybe, whose permission do you now realize you don’t need to do what you want to do?
Go be fantastic!
